Couples Therapy – Affairs/Break of Trust

WILL I EVER TRUST MY PARTNER AGAIN?

The simple answer is yes.

However, I know how hard and painful all the emotions are that come along aside. Each of you is hurting in a different way. The partner that has been betrayed likely feels so much hurt and pain, anger, sadness, and just a soup of emotions.

To the partner that did the betraying...I see you too. I know the shame, guilt, frustration, and sadness that you are also feeling.

I know how hard this is for both of you in very different ways. I will help you relationally cope and heal from this as a couple. Now more than ever, feeling heard and understood is so important to the healing and trust building process. I know it is not easy, but I want to help you talk about the depths of pain, hurt, sadness, and anger.

I know first hand that you can become even stronger after working through this even though it feels like a nightmare.

One of my favorite therapists Esther Peter has said that “every affair redefines a relationship and every couple will determine what the legacy of the affair will be”.


HOW THERAPY CAN HELP…

Rebuilding trust in your relationship is not an easy task. It takes courage and commitment. I can help you begin expressing your feelings and working on rebuilding the relationship. I will help stop the cycle of going in circles and actually work on healing.

You now get to have a voice and have the opportunity to find yourself. Change and say things that you may have not wanted to say before.

The opportunity for growth in your relationship will now happen. It starts with mourning the loss of your old relationship and beginning to build a new one through relational coping and holding each others pain together.

Affairs/Break Of Trust

“A new disorder which actually leads to a new order” – Esther Perel

Life has been turned upside down and you are not sure how to make sense of what is going on.

Has something been off this whole time? Is there something wrong with me? How could I have prevented this from happening? How could they have broken my trust? What is wrong with them for destroying our relationship?

These questions + 100 more may be some of the questions you ask yourself when an affair has been exposed in your relationship.

What you do know is that you want to know everything and your detective hat is on and you are searching for everything you can find- phone calls, facebook messages, phone records, text messages, and so much more to try and fill in the blanks and understand what has happened.

Each time you find something new, the pain you feel inside gets worse. But you can’t stop yourself and you continue to look through everything. Each thing you find, you are filled with more pain and confusion.

You may feel like you are losing your mind, but of course you are. Dealing with an affair is like nothing you have ever experienced before. This feeling is so incredibly painful and deeply personal.

Everything you thought you knew, you don’t anymore. Your mind and heart are going so fast. The number one question you are probably thinking is how will I ever gain trust back in this relationship? Likely it feels impossible.